Doing the shadow work and facing the dark feminine

Earlier this week I was part of a video chat with my spiritual sisterhood to talk about what it means to face the dark feminine energy and do shadow work. You can watch our video here!

What is the dark feminine? She’s the shadow side of our authentic being which is a body of light, and thus she is very powerful… that is, until we bring her into our conscious awareness. The moment you bring it forward—no cover ups!—is the moment the dark feminine loses any grip on you!

Being a woman in patriarchy is being raised to be the dark feminine… if you go for the programming that is. We are told to be “nice” girls, to sit pretty and keep our mouth shut. (Keep things hidden… engage in cover-ups.) We are raised to be copy cats in every way—the dark feminine can’t be original. She’s afraid of walking her own path. Think about the schooling you may have experienced if you grew up in the United States: copy this art project exactly! Follow this way of thinking exactly! OBEY!

The dark feminine loves gossip, she has low self esteem and envies others. She’s obsessed with the world of form and identifies with it. She doesn’t see herself as sacred. She manipulates through her sexuality. She believes she has no power and is a victim. She runs to the system to protect her and she thrives in white supremacy.

Think of the darkness the United States was founded on: take what isn’t yours and then co-opt their traditions and beliefs as your own, as long as it doesn’t disrupt notions of whiteness and capitalism.

The dark feminine doesn’t believe in true sisterhood. She tears it down. She’s afraid to be herself and trust other women. And yet there are no feminine ways without the sisterhood… so we must work together to heal ourselves and our sisterhood to understand that another way is possible.

Take a look at our video if you are interested in learning more about understanding and transmuting this energy. If you want to learn more about our sisterhood, visit Magdalas.com.

We are called to be tiger warriors

Contrary to what you might imagine based on the title of this blog, I am NOT a fan of “love and light” when it comes to spiritual work. My entire spiritual path has been one of deep, transformative shadow work: staring into the dark corners and finding the light hidden within. Spiritual bypassing is the opposite – the idea that we are all “love and light” and therefore need to “keep our vibes high!” The risk of this thinking is that you avoid the intense shadow work necessary to help you and other to grow and evolve spiritually. You also risk letting your shadow rule you if you are unwilling to face it directly. (One example that reaaaaallly gets my goat – the idea that “we all just need to come together and see our unity!” and erase the concerns of BIPOC voices. You see this a lot in spiritual circles. HELL NO! to this.)

In this time and space we’re being called to embrace our inner tiger warrior. I learned about the tiger warriors from my spiritual mother/teacher Magdala Ramirez. The Tiger Warriors are part of the Mayan/Aztec lineage and were trained to understand that we live in a world of “smoky mirrors” that is here to teach us lessons, though it can also easily trick us rule us if we don’t stay vigilant. (See that link for a great book she wrote about the smoky mirror.) It’s always a choice how you respond to the darkness of shame, guilt, fear. The tiger warrior is one who understands their emotional triggers and doesn’t let them rule them. They hunt them down and transmute the wounds, or simply discard the outdated beliefs that no longer belong.

May you embody the tiger warrior and face your shadow with courage and strength. May you hold onto the knowledge that you are LOVE and prepare to kick to the curb the stories that deny this truth. May you observe your emotional reactions and not be ruled by them. May you call upon the part of you who knows how to do this and ask for their guidance. I believe in you! Be strong, warriors of light!

Aztec warriors as depicted in the Codex Mendoza at URL: https://www.ancientpages.com/2016/03/28/fearsome-aztec-eagle-warriors-and-jaguar-warriors-of-mesoamerica/

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Embracing Brokenness

I love Parker Palmer’s writings so much. I had to share this quote I stumbled upon. 

P.s. May all stay safe in the face of storms–internal or external. (We were spared from Matthew and feeling so very grateful. Prayers to anyone impacted.)

As you integrate ignorance and failure into your knowledge and success, do the same with all the alien parts of yourself. 

Take everything that’s bright and beautiful in you and introduce it to the shadow side of yourself. 

Let your altruism meet your egotism, let your generosity meet your greed, let your joy meet your grief. 

Everyone has a shadow… But when you are able to say, “I am all of the above, my shadow as well as my light,” the shadow’s power is put in service of the good. 

Wholeness is the goal, but wholeness does not mean perfection, it means embracing brokenness as an integral part of your life.