Why I Started this Blog

I thought I’d take a moment to welcome you and to share a little bit about why I started Mourning Dove Motherhood.

The real reason sounds slightly crazy, but it is the truth, and I’m a truth-teller. So here it is.

The seeds of this blog came about on the first anniversary of losing my mom (aka “Deathversary”). In typical fashion, I overthought the day and ended up having a slightly hilarious time attempting to mourn my mother on the stinking beaches of sanibel island.

I wanted to make grand sense of it all. Why this suffering. Why this loss? It sure sucked and I was tired of it, damnit!

Well, the universe/aka my dead mother/aka the oneness of the allness responded to me (I warned you it gets weird) and basically was all, “Yes this all sucks and you can be sad but get it TOGETHER WOMAN. You need to write. Write like your life depends on it. Sit. Down. And. Write.”

So I sat down and wrote. (I mean, after all my begging for answers, I wasn’t about to ignore the all-powerful-universe’s advice.)

I drafted dozens of posts on an unpublished blog with no name. I wanted to see exactly what I was going to write about before I put it out into the world.

Well, it turns out I have a lot to say about motherhood and a lot to say about the loss of my mom. A lot of it is funny. Some of it is sad. All of it heals me.

As far as the name of the blog is concerned,  it is a result of my close encounters with a mourning dove, which then led me to read about the symbolism of mourning doves, which made me realize that mourning doves perfectly encapsulate what this blog is about: motherhood and hope after loss.

Hope after loss. Oh yes, and we can’t forget the toddler who pees in the dog bowl. She shows up a lot. She is a feisty, hilarious, loving child and she is constant fodder for my writing.

Welcome and I look forward to sharing with you. (You and the universe, that is.)

P.s. I’m glad you are here. If you are anything like me and spend more time on Facebook than anywhere else, feel free to like the Facebook page to see all the upcoming posts!


  1. Hi. Welcome to the world of blogging. I agree it can be very healing writing stuff. It’s really helped me to deal with some deep rooted issues over the past few months. I look forward to your future posts x


    1. Hi, thanks so much for the welcome! I totally agree…it really helps me to get stuff out of my head and onto the page. (Or should I say screen?) Thanks for stopping by. I love your blog and your kids are so adorable I can hardly stand it!

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  2. gaillygirl says:

    Hello, my name is Gail. Saturday (Dec 12) will be the 10th deathversary of my father and Jan 24 will be 3 years for my mom. Even after so many years, I still relive the last week of their lives. You just can’t help it.


    1. Hi Gail, I am so sorry for the loss of your parents. It has only been two years since I lost my mom, but I can imagine that the deathversary is always tough, no matter how many years have passed. I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts these next two months. Thank you for sharing and I wish you well!


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